Shout out to attorney Edra J. Pollin, although this list is probably more useful to my own clients than the general public. Entertaining nonetheless.
Shout out to attorney Edra J. Pollin, although this list is probably more useful to my own clients than the general public. Entertaining nonetheless.
Interesting article today regarding proposed modifications to what many people feel is an antiquated alimony system. Alimony, or spousal support, can be categorized as “periodic”, or payable over time, or “in gross”, which is more of a one-time property settlement. The factors courts consider when awarding alimony include:
Unfortunately, many times the alimony award, whether temporary or permanent, creates a financial disaster for the payer and a potential windfall for the payee. The article lists several horror stories that are reflective of some of the problems with the current alimony system in many states. Hopefully more reform will be proposed that can clean up a lot of the problem areas when it comes to alimony in divorce cases.
Well THIS is an interesting idea. We advise our clients to monitor all social media sites they use once they retain us, partly to avoid issues like this. There are many bad things and virtually no good things that can come from having a public Facebook or other social media page during a divorce or custody case. You never know how a seemingly innocuous photo or post can come back to haunt you in a divorce or custody trial, and you can be sure that many attorneys are now monitoring other parties’ profiles as well as their own clients’. Checking into a location from Facebook or Foursquare is an equally-bad idea, which can have unintended disastrous consequences.
We check email addresses, social media profiles, and many other online activities of our own clients as well as other parties, and frequently gather useful information from such sites. Even if pages are set to “private” or otherwise hidden, information can still be found, which is why we recommend monitoring all such sites during the pendency of a divorce or custody case.
I thought it would be interesting to post the standard visitation schedule we currently use in Shelby County, Alabama. Obviously visitation specifics can be negotiated and tweaked, but this is a good starting point for reference.
Alabama Standard Visitation Schedule
A. MID-WEEK AND WEEKEND TIMESHARING: From 5:00 P.M. until 8:00 P.M. on Wednesday evening of each week, and from 5:00 P.M. on Friday until 5:00 P.M. on Sunday every other weekend. These timesharing schedules shall be superseded by the December Holiday, Thanksgiving and Spring Break schedules set forth below and shall be modified during the Summer Vacation Break each year to accommodate any special vacation plans made by either parent.
1) Notice: If the parents are residing within the same geographic area,
then the secondary residential parent shall give notice (verbal or written) at
least twenty-four (24) hours in advance only if he/she does not intend to
exercise midweek or weekend timesharing rights with the child.
If the parents are not residing within the same geographic area, the secondary
residential parent shall give notice (verbal or written) at least seven (7) days in
advance if he/she does intend to have the child reside with him/her for a scheduled
midweek visit or weekend.
The custodial parent shall provide the noncustodial parent notice at least 24
hours in advance if weekend timesharing is not going to be possible with the child
because of the illness of the child or due to other extraordinary, unforeseen
If timesharing is canceled due to illness of the child or other extraordinary,
unforeseen circumstances, the parent missing the timesharing shall have the right to
compensatory time with the child within 30 days.
2) “Friday” and “Monday” holidays: Regular weekend timesharing shall
begin at 6:00 P.M. on Thursday if that Friday is a public school or legal holiday and
shall extend until 6:00 P.M. on Monday if that Monday is a public school or legal
3) Homework/readiness of children: The primary residential parent shall
insure that the children have adequate and proper clothing, and the secondary
residential parent shall insure that the furnished clothing is returned. The secondary
residential parent shall insure that the children complete all assigned homework during
midweek and weekend timesharing and shall have the children bathed and ready for
bed if they are being returned to their primary residence after 7:00 P.M.
B. DECEMBER HOLIDAYS: For approximately one week during the December holiday period each year, beginning at 5:00 P.M. on the day that school recesses for the December holiday period and ending at 12:00 noon on December 26th in odd-numbered years, and beginning at 12:00 noon on December 26th and ending at 6:00 P.M. on the day before school resumes in even-numbered years. The actual length of this timesharing period may vary each year depending upon the child’s school holiday calendar and when Christmas Day actually occurs.
1) Notice [preferably in writing] of intent to exercise December Holiday
timesharing shall be given no later than December 1st each year.
C. THANKSGIVING HOLIDAYS: >From 6:00 P.M. on the day that school recesses for the Thanksgiving holidays until 6:00 P.M. on the following Sunday in even-numbered years.
1) Notice [preferably in writing] of intent to exercise Thanksgiving Holiday
timesharing shall be given by November 1st of each appropriate year.
D. SUMMER VACATION BREAK: For the first half of the children’s summer vacation break (including the Fourth of July holiday) in even-numbered years, and the last half of the children’s summer vacation break in odd-numbered years. For purposes of this Agreement, the summer vacation break is defined to begin at 6:00 P.M. on the date that school recesses for the summer and to end seven (7) days before school reconvenes for the following fall term.
1) Notice in writing of intent to exercise summer timesharing shall be given
by May 1st of each year.
2) Reciprocal midweek and weekend timesharing during summer
months: The primary residential parent shall have the same weekend and midweek
timesharing rights as the secondary residential parent enjoys during the rest of the
3) Planned Vacations: Midweek and weekend timesharing during the
Summer Vacation Break shall be modified whenever either parent has specific
vacation plans for the children or the children have special activities planned, e.g.
camp. The parent missing regularly scheduled timesharing due to vacation plans shall
have the right to make-up the time within 45 days.
4) Transportation: The noncustodial parent shall be responsible for
transporting the children back and forth to the custodial parent’s home at his/her
expense for reciprocal midweek and weekend timesharing.
5) Summer school attendance: Each parent has the obligation to ensure
that the child attends required remedial summer school necessary for promotion to the
next grade. If the secondary residential parent resides outside the child’s geographic
area, he/she shall have the option at his/her expense to enroll the child in an
equivalent summer school session meeting the necessary requirements in the
secondary residential parent’s area so as not to defeat the secondary residential
parent’s ability to share time with the child during the summer.
E. SPRING BREAK: From 6:00 P.M. on the day that school recesses for the Spring Break holiday until 6:00 P.M. on the day before school resumes, in even-numbered years.
1) Notice [preferably in writing] of intent to exercise Spring Break
timesharing shall be given 30 days in advance each applicable year.
OTHER TIMESHARING SCHEDULES:
A. MOTHER’S DAY, FATHER’S DAY, & PARENTS’S BIRTHDAYS: The children shall spend Father’s Day and the father’s birthday with their father, and Mother’s Day and the mother’s birthday with their mother, from 9:00 A.M. until 6:00 P.M. on the day of the event. These arrangements shall supersede any other regularly-scheduled timesharing periods.
1) Notice: If the parents are residing within the same geographic area, the
noncustodial parent shall give notice (verbal or written) at least twenty-four (24)
hours in advance only if he/she does not intend to exercise this timesharing.
If the parents are not residing within the same geographic area, the
noncustodial parent shall give notice (verbal or written) at least seven (7) days in
advance if he/she does intend to exercise this timesharing.
B. CHILD’S BIRTHDAYS: In even-numbered years, the child shall celebrate with the primary residential parent from 5:00 P.M. the evening before until 4:00 P.M. on the child’s birthday, and the child shall celebrate with the secondary residential parent from 4:00 P.M. on the child’s birthday until 5:00 P.M. the following day. In odd-numbered years, this schedule shall be reversed. This arrangement will supersede any other regularly-scheduled timesharing arrangements.
1) Notice (verbal or written) of intent to exercise this timesharing shall be
given 7 days prior to the child’s birthday.
C. OTHER TIMES: The children shall be entitled to share time with the secondary residential parent at all other times agreed upon by the parents. If the parties are not residing within the same geographic area and the secondary residential parent has an opportunity to be in the locality of the children’s primary physical residence, he/she shall have the right to share time with the children upon one (1) week’s advance notice to the primary residential parent.
ADDITIONAL PARENTING RESPONSIBILITIES:
A. WAITING: Absent telephonic communication of extenuating circumstances, the child and the custodial parent have no duty to await the noncustodial parent for more than thirty (30) minutes of the scheduled timesharing period. A parent who is late for weekend timesharing forfeits timesharing for that weekend. A parent who is late at the beginning of a regularly-scheduled timesharing period other than a weekend forfeits the time until the next day.
B. TRANSPORTATION: The secondary residential parent shall be responsible for all transportation or transportation expenses associated with timesharing, except that the parties shall equally share the responsibility and cost of transportation for the child to travel to and from the secondary residential parent’s residence for December Holiday and summer timesharing each year.
If the parents are unable to agree, the secondary residential parent shall be responsible for transportation at the beginning of the timesharing period, and the primary residential parent shall be responsible for transportation at the end of the timesharing period.
Until age 11, no child shall be required to travel on any public carrier (e.g. bus, train, or airplane) unaccompanied by a responsible adult (including pre-arranged airline personnel) without the other parent’s express consent.
Approved child safety seats or seat belts when allowed by age or weight must be used at all times when transporting the child by vehicle or airplane.
C. BACKUP CARE: Assuming the parents reside in the same geographic area, each parent shall be given the opportunity and shall have the right to have the child with him/her when the child would otherwise be left alone or with a babysitter, daycare provider or facility, or other third party for any period of time exceeding four (4) hours. Both parents are encouraged to offer each other the opportunity to serve as “first choice babysitter” whenever either parent needs childcare for the child.
D. RELIGIOUS, SCHOOL AND EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES: It is in the children’s best interest to participate in religious activities, school programs and regularly-scheduled extracurricular activities appropriate for their ages and talents, such as sports, dance, modeling, and music lessons. When residing within the same geographic area, each parent has the duty to inform the other, and the right to attend, all such activities in which the children are participating. This includes the right to participate in and attend activities with the children at school, including eating lunch with the children.
The children shall have the right to attend Church and/or Sunday School at the Church attended by the custodial parent during the time they are scheduled to be with that parent.
Each parent shall make a good faith effort to deliver the child to scheduled activities on time and in appropriate attire. If not also attending an activity, the parent who delivers a child has the duty to ensure that the child is also picked up. Except for such regularly-scheduled activities, neither parent will make commitments for the child during the time the child is normally scheduled to share time with the other parent without the other parent’s knowledge and consent.
If the parties are not residing in the same geographic area, the noncustodial parent shall have no obligation to see that the child attends any extracurricular activities scheduled by the custodial parent during the regularly-scheduled timesharing periods. [For example, the custodial parent cannot refuse to honor the noncustodial parent’s spring or summer vacation time with the child simply because the child has a baseball game or practice during that time.]
E. NOTIFICATION OF RELOCATION: The primary residential parent shall give the secondary residential parent written notice at least ninety (90) days in advance of any plan to permanently relocate with the children outside of the parties’ geographic area.
F. GRANDPARENT AND RELATIVE CONTACT: It is presumptively in the children’s best interest that they maintain a relationship with the maternal and paternal grandparents and other close family. The parents should allow the children reasonable access and telephonic contact with grandparents and close family.
Great article from The Birmingham News regarding the advantages of mediation. From the tangible benefits of cost controls and efficiency, mediation provides hidden benefits that may not seem apparent at first.
First, mediation is far less stressful than going to trial. Judges in Alabama are overworked and understaffed, and have literally thousands of cases on their dockets. Beyond the obvious truth that going to trial is exorbitantly expensive and time-consuming, there is no guarantee that your outcome will be any better. The simple act of getting a trial date scheduled can take months, the discovery process further delays things, and by the time you get to the trial date, most parties are exhausted and out of money.
Second, mediation is easier on children. A case going to trial requires the appointment of a guardian ad litem, a lawyer who represents only the children, and requires meetings with them and transport to and from lawyer offices and the courthouse. Mediation can usually be resolved in one day, which limits the stress and confusion for children.
Finally, mediation is the last resort to a client and their spouse determining their fate. A client and their spouse alone understand the nuances of their relationship and are in the best position to work out issues such as custody, visitation, and property division. Going to trial puts these issues into the hands of very capable judges, but judges that do not know the parties and will not be able to understand the emotions and details from a long marriage. Mediation gives the parties control over their divorce, which ultimately makes things easier on everyone.
This is a great story. I don’t even have any analysis, I just think it’s hilarious.